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GBV Perpetrators

What are the drivers of GBV perpetrators? The GBV Perpetrators have a leeway because they have 1.Finance 2.Influence 3.Resources 4.Connections 1.Finance The GBV Perpetrators can do whatever he/ she wants because of poverty prevailing, secondly there is a high rate of unemployment and there are those who like money and don't  like to work then there's another group which cannot be employed anywhere and there's another group which accepts,throws themselves to be abused so that they can get tenders or promotions. 2.Influence Most of these Perpetrators have influence to make your life horrible,if you dare to challenge. 3.Resources The Perpetrators got resources like transport, accomodation or anything which the victim cannot afford. 4.Connections The Perpetrator is well connected from high places to low places even to your friends and relatives

Hidden GBV

The victim is softly  abused. Why, because the abusers are carefully  managing their programs.Let see what is covered in the hidden GBV. 1.Love 2.Money 3.Shelter 4.Co-operation 5.Traditional Abuser  6.Educational Abuser 7.Job Abuse 8.Friend Abuse 9.Health Abuse 10.Police Abuse 1.Love How can one kick,clap,bad mouth his/ her Lover and buy flowers and be told that all was done in the name of love 2.Money When money is given to anyone is coupled with gruesome words.The primary need is Money covered by insults.The abused cannot respond because it's a main source of money. 3.Shelter This can be rental or helped to pay the rent.At anytime vulgar words are used and subjected to all forms of abused. 4.Co-operation There are two types of co-operation forced or free co-operation. The  forced co-operation is sustained by Fear. 5.Traditional Abuser This is the mother of all the abuse. Someone would stick to the past and use Traditional Law as the Law of Ancestors. 6.Education Ab...

Why GBV is not addressed properly

GBV is not addressed  properly because  there  are: -people who who don't  care about it. -it is only used when they want to mobilize People. -subdued  in other  countries. -misused  purposefully  -the Advocates don't  have resources. People who don't  care  much about it To other people is the forgotten   subject  it resurfaces  at the particular time. It is only used when they want to mobilize People We don't see the marches throughout  the whole year. Subdued in other  countries  There are literally "quiet" countries  in GBV as if it  GBV doesn't  happen. Misused purposefully  Some of these GBV marches are for unifying the people  for another purpose. The Advocates  don't  have resources.  There are  minimum   offices and NGO's So,the issue of GBV is not thoroughly  addressed

Is Polygamy part of GBV?

I would say Yes  and No No because at the beginning Polygamy is explained and entered into a contract. What does the contract consists of: 1.The Senior  Wife or the first Wife is told before hand. 2.The Senior Wife must agree willingly and all the doubts, opinions and questions  should be answered satisfactory. That does not agree a guarantee that the things agreed to will be adhered to. Usually the finances are the bone of contention because the finances must satisfy  the wives. Polygamy may cause GBV. The action and reaction of the partner may Abuse the wife or vice versa the husband might be abused. The following are the types of Abuse: 1.Too much demanding money. 2.Too much demanding material things like expensive clothes, shoes,perfumes etc. 3.To apply anything which can you "Feel" the Pain do that he or she can be released from the existing Hell. 1.The Aim is to breakdown the Partner. 2.To be isolated from the other Partner. 3.You must have enough stress. 4.Ult...

When does Abuse start?

Usually it starts as 6 years and usually  the  boys  are the abuser.The  next question  is who contribute  or plant the mind of abusing.The Father  to the  boy created  heroism and  mouthing the Women not mention  the wife. The mother may create that space of inferiority complex  by adoring the boy and making him a King or both the  parents can contribute  to this mess. As the child enters 10-15 years,will be swarmed  in with  ideas  of superiority. Who could total rehabilitate  this  man? None.The "change" which we may see is temporarily.We must see the "remains" like the left  house foundation which shows that  there was a house. The  next phase is to monitor  the Abuser. He  must not be given a space  to breath He must be checked regularly. Say a period of 5 years 

Covered Abuse

The Abuse can be sometimes be covered. You may take it at face value  that its Love. The  more exaggeration  of Love,the more Abused is covered.It can come in one of the two ways: Money "overspent" for you. This  can be theinitial aim of cover so that you must not think straight but to be in his/her line. Money is underspend for you. The aim is to draw you and suck you to the last cent. No Money spent The  Abuser can come as a Helper  with  no money but with abundant Love. Happiness  can be more than  money. Good treatment makes you forget about  your Abused era.The new Abuser will suck you for a long time.The Abuser will take  care of your children and be responsible  enough in cleaning your house and protection. Although there's no direct pain  but the type of pain you shall experience  will be the shortage of food,pay more electricity.  Some of the items will disappear. All these things are causing pain.

Experienced Abuser.

Experienced  Abuser  I visited  my Library and found the following  interesting  tipic: Experienced  Abuser. An Abuser is got some under exploitation  from which we are aware  or not aware. The main aim of this type of Abuser  is to tease,inflict  pain and watch your reaction  which pleases him  or her.He/She may respond to your reaction,the botton line he/she gained satisfactory. Lets see briefly what does the Experience  Abuser do; 1.Substance Abuser: I once interviewed  some Liquor drinkers. My Question  was: WHY  PEOPLE DRINK LIQUOR? They gave me the following  interesting  Answers: We drink because  we_ 1.1_want to enjoy ourself. 1.2_are running or away or avoiding from specific  situation. 1.3_want to tell your  about something  because  we are sober we can't tell you. 2.Some will  enjoy to: _divide their families. _cause chaos in the family. The bottom line the ...